Wednesday, September 28, 2016

If I have a daughter, I want to raise her to be empowered, not a Feminist.

I heard a sad cliché from a now former friend of mine a while back: “I hope you never have a daughter with what you believe about women.” The same had told me before how much of a gentleman I am. What caused the ugly shift? What crime did I commit? Claiming the wage gap myth is in fact a myth.

This is not even fun to refute anymore. When we compare all salaries of women and men, yes, there is a wage gap. But more men are in higher-paying careers than women, which means there is either more education/training involved or more physical risk involved. Compare within the same career, and factor in experience which women lose if they take maternity leave or leave their job (as they sometimes do; there is nothing wrong with that, but it explains the discrepancy), and the wage gap disappears. Simple. Why would any profit-seeking business hire a man when a woman can do the same work for $.77 on the dollar, or $.66, or whatever, depending on who’s claiming it? Businesses would hire women for cheaper labor and avoid men unless necessary. Economics. I have girls agreeing with me on this subject and making light of it. But if a woman wants to feel oppressed, she will. And if a man wants to bow to her and kiss up, he’ll believe it.

This isn’t just about the wage gap myth. This is the culture kids are being brought up in. Apparently, if I have a daughter, I’ll oppress her. I don’t know because I don’t have kids. But I know if I ever do have a daughter, I want to raise her to be empowered, not to act like a victim. Fighting oppression is great, as long as it’s there.

But here’s the deal: women in America aren’t oppressed anymore. There is no wage gap. I would be doing my daughter a disservice to teach her that she is treated unfairly and allow her to devote some of her life to fighting a nonexistent enemy. I would not be a good father if I taught her that men are the problem and prevent women from reaching their potential. She would grow up resenting me and her brothers and any other male in her life.

It would be bad parenting to tell my daughter she can go wherever she wants and that she should do it unarmed in the name of equality, knowing that she is being put at risk. It is wrong not to teach her how to defend herself and to avoid situations that make her an easy target because it should be a man’s job to control himself. We can teach men not to rape and teach women how to avoid the ones that don't listen; they aren’t mutually exclusive.

It is foolish to tell my daughter that modesty is of no importance.

It is unfair to teach her that every man in her life wants to rape her because “it’s the culture”. I once contradicted a feminist who responded to a tweet of mine and was subsequently called a rapist.

Imagine how rude my daughter would be as she scolds a man for holding the door for her because she is capable of opening it herself.

How evil it would be to teach her that her ability to bring life into the world is oppressive and the best way to gain equality is to pay someone to dismember her child?

What a double-standard to say that women are equal but to say that she needs affirmative action or abortion to be equal. I believe women are equal by their very nature of being human; they don’t need anything to make them so.

How dare she claim that a man should have no say in his child’s future but should have to pay child support if she chooses not to kill her child.

See, I don’t think chivalry or research is the problem. Feminism is. Teaching our daughters to be victims is not empowerment. It is oppression. Lying to her will only make her delusional, not strong. If I have a daughter, I want her to be empowered by knowing that she is equal and teaching her to live in peace with men. Victimization is empowerment only to those who have sipped from the cup of feminist ideology. Differing roles in society do not make individuals unequal. Accurate information will empower my daughter -- not belief in lies.

Thursday, September 15, 2016

"God Hates Fags", and other Tall Tales

Every once in a while, traveling preachers make their way to NKU.

I’m not inherently against street preaching; in fact, I’ve seen it have effects in places. Society seems to be paying less and less attention to it, but it is still a relevant thing.

I’ve seen men like Ray Comfort and Tom Short win people to Christ through their witness in public places, including college campuses.

The traveling preachers I speak of are not these men.

These are men that like to stir up controversy for the sake of stirring up controversy. These are men that claim Christianity but show no fruit. These are men that seem to many of us incapable of compassion or love.

It places born-again Christians on campus in a precarious position. We can’t deny that there is some truth in what these men say, though shrouded in vitriol. It is true that there is sin in the world, and that people are guilty of some terrible sin. They tend to focus on sexual sin, be it homosexuality, pre-marital sex, or pornography. They call these things wrong, and they are correct. They are also correct in stating that God will punish sin.

These men, though, run afoul in three areas, and in this way preach something other than the true gospel.

First, they largely deny their own sin. As I said before, God hates sin, and the Bible paints a pretty bleak picture of the natural state of man:

“As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one: There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God. They are all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, not one. Their throat is an open sepulchre; with their tongues they have used deceit; the poison of asps is under their lips: Whose mouth is full of cursing and bitterness: Their feet are swift to shed blood: Destruction and misery are in their ways: And the way of peace have they not known: There is no fear of God before their eyes. Now we know that what things soever the law saith, it saith to them who are under the law: that every mouth may be stopped, and all the world may become guilty before God.” –Romans 3:10-19

So yeah, we are in a pretty bad spot. But pay attention to one of the principles in this passage. Read it again with this emphasis:

“As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one: There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God. They are all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, not one. Their throat is an open sepulchre; with their tongues they have used deceit; the poison of asps is under their lips: Whose mouth is full of cursing and bitterness: Their feet are swift to shed blood: Destruction and misery are in their ways: And the way of peace have they not known: There is no fear of God before their eyes. Now we know that what things soever the law saith, it saith to them who are under the law: that every mouth may be stopped, and all the world may become guilty before God.” –Romans 3:10-19

That means every person is guilty of sin and naturally under God’s judgment. Everyone.

Second, God hates no one. He hates sin. But He loves people, more than we could love people or love ourselves:

“But if the wicked will turn from all his sins that he hath committed, and keep all my statutes, and do that which is lawful and right, he shall surely live, he shall not die. All his transgressions that he hath committed, they shall not be mentioned unto him: in his righteousness that he hath done he shall live. Have I any pleasure at all that the wicked should die? saith the Lord God: and not that he should return from his ways, and live?” –Ezekiel 18:21-23

“The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.” –II Peter 3:9

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.” –John 3:16-17

Finally, these men completely miss the redemptive part of the gospel. And if you miss that, you’ve missed the gospel entirely. More on that soon.

You may think I only came here to lambast these traveling preachers. No, it is equally disappointing to watch the reaction to them. The intellectual dishonesty on college campuses, mine included, is absurd. We all know these men are not representative of Christians. They aren’t fooling anyone.
And yet there are people who will come not to listen, but only combat these preachers, giving them the exact fuel they need. I hear few good arguments against the words of these men. It usually consists of the go-to liberal tactic of producing as much shock as possible. Yelling something that includes the word “vagina” or making out with someone of the same sex is not an argument.

Close-minded street preachers attract close-minded students.

They know these men aren’t like most Christians. They get their free coffee from Vine & Branches and free pancakes from the BCM. They have the door held for them by Christians. They receive smiles from Christians. They work on projects with Christians. They play intramurals with Christians. Why then do they make the mistake of lumping us all together?

Presuppositions.

These students desperately want to believe that Christians are hateful bigots who disapprove of their lifestyles. They could talk to 200 Christians who show them love. But you get two men who say they are Christians but speak as though they aren’t, and, “See! I knew Christians were hateful bigots!” Somehow the ramblings of deranged preachers justify a sinful lifestyle. Anything they can latch onto to prove what they’ve already decided is true.

I would be remissed if I did not also point out the intellectual dishonesty of fellow students in light of the actual bigots.

And Christians will flock to apologize for the behavior of these men, as if we somehow are to blame. I’m not in the habit of apologizing for things with which I have nothing to do. “Sorry that America killed your father in a drone strike. I promise we’re not all like that.” These men aren’t fooling anyone into believing they are Christian; they just offer an excuse to affirm sin.

I have nothing against stating that they are not Christians, but I have no control over their behavior.

Here’s the practical part. We as Christians can explain to people that Christians are not hateful, and that these men are not representative of us. But the only true way to prove our love is not through words, but action. Leave people in no doubt that we are God’s people. Let them see the love of God manifest in us through the way we interact with them. Explanations only go so far. How we act is what will bring those explanations credibility.

I said earlier that these traveling preachers completely miss the doctrine of redemption. It is true: man is sinful, and sin leads to spiritual death. And death means eternity in Hell:

“He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.” –John 3:18

“For the wages of sin is death…” –Romans 6:23a

Think of it this way: God is a judge. He has created laws. Breaking laws earns punishment. We are falling short daily of the perfect standard God has set. We missed the mark, and that earns condemnation.

The awesome part, and the part these street preachers are suppressing, is that there is an alternate route. What if I told you there was a way for God’s justice to be satisfied AND a way for us to avoid God’s condemnation?

Enter Jesus Christ.

Jesus died a propitiatory death:

“And he is the propitiation for our sins: and not for ours only, but also for the sins of the whole world.” –I John 2:2

That means that when Jesus died on the cross, He took the sin of the entire world upon Him and bore God’s wrath for sin. That’s why, if you read accounts of the crucifixion, the Earth goes dark in the middle of the day, and after three hours Jesus cried out, “My God! My God! Why hast thou forsaken me?” This punishment propitiated, or satisfied, God’s wrath.

So now we have a way to have a personal relationship with God through Jesus’ sacrifice. No longer must we live under condemnation. Jesus was condemned and rose again to cover our sin.

And that is totally missed by these traveling preachers. Yes, God condemns sin. But no, He does not hate individuals and He has not simply left us hopeless with no way to escape our sin:

“Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.” –I Corinthians 6:9-11

God is in the business of changing lives.

So weigh the teachings of the Bible carefully against the teachings of bigoted preachers. I think you’ll find they don’t match up. Then consider that humbling reality that God became human to die for you so that you would have a way out of condemnation and into eternal life.