The Problems with Free Condoms at Universities

A few years ago, I was able to meet with the director of NKU Health Services to talk about the university’s policy regarding birth control and abortion.

I am not entirely against certain contraceptives. But morally, I see a very limited use. Never, ever, should contraceptives that serve as abortifacients (slickening the lining of the uterus so a newly formed human life cannot continue forming, thus taking his or her life) have ever been created, much less used. There are likely many more humans killed by abortifacient birth control than those killed in abortion mills.

I am also morally against sex before marriage. So the only circumstances I find contraceptives to be used appropriately is inside of a monogamous, heterosexual marriage, and only if this will not take the life of a very young human. I am open to arguments against its use here as well, but I haven’t heard a compelling one yet.

With that background, I found NKU’s policies among the fairer ones at a public university. They hand out condoms, and in doing so remind students that there are still risks to having sex with contraception and that the only way to avoid this is through abstinence.

There is clearly not a unified message, as is evident from the “Stay Safe. Use a Condom.” sign that graced the women’s studies hall. I guess having an 18% chance of being exposed to a possible STD or becoming pregnant is what passes as “safe” these days.

On the side of abortion, the health center only refers if specifically asked. Dr. Anderson, the director, told me they do the same for resource centers as well. He is also a former pastor who now sees the “complexity of the abortion issue”, so I might double-check his word.

All things considered, though, the policy isn’t too bad, if indeed I was being told the truth. Yet I still take issue with the free contraceptives.

This is one majorly hypocritical expectation of liberals. They want the government to stay out of their bedroom, but want taxpayer funds to kill their child in case their contraception doesn’t work. They don’t want Christians to “legislate morality” but force us to foot the bill for their sexual promiscuity.

Here’s the thing: if you want me out of your sex life, take me out of your sex life. But you expect to have your cake and eat it too, and public universities let you get away with it.

I don’t care what you do in your bedroom. I don’t hold you to the standards I hold myself to. Yet somehow, it’s okay to force me to fund lifestyles I believe are wrong.

My housing fees went towards a sign in the Norse Hall director’s window telling students to ask if they need a condom. Surely that conversation must be awkward.

“Hey, let me stop by my hall director’s office so I can get some condoms for us later.”

“I got you, you two have fun.”

I find it utterly repulsive that such an option exists.

The foolish reality of it all is that public universities are encouraging sex. You cannot hand out free contraceptives and simultaneously encourage someone to not put himself at risk by having sex.

That would be like going to hold a friend’s hand during an abortion procedure. If I really care about her, I’m going to try to stop her, not enable her. No true pro-life person would help someone have an abortion. No one actually worried about student health will enable them to do something that puts their health at risk when there is a legitimate alternative.

Naturally, we couldn’t have a conversation about contraceptives on college campuses without that little wink from a middle-age person.

“Oh, you and I both know that they’re going to do it anyway.”

Apparently there are rivers of testosterone and estrogen that must be crossed on the way to class, making us lose all inhibitions and concern over our health. We’re nothing more than horny animals running amok who have no control over our lascivious passions.

Apparently, we just can’t help ourselves.

For the love of God, have a little faith in us.

The fact is, I know people that have never engaged in sexual activity. I know unmarried adults that have never had sex. Have we considered the self-fulfilling prophecy we are spouting from our positions of higher learning?

“You all are going to have sex. That’s just the reality of it.”

We don’t need a whole lot of encouragement, and an asinine statement such as that is all it will take.

College health clinics will rave about getting ample sleep and wearing sunscreen, but encourage sexual activity by paying for the night. Imagine them telling us to wear sunscreen and do whatever we want in the sun, and it will be “safe”. Why a clear warning for one but not the other?

The first line of the abortion cartel is the sex education of public high schools and universities.

Here’s a simple policy. Let’s be entirely honest with students. Let’s give them the facts on the risks involved with contraception. Let’s tell them that condoms don’t protect against the most common venereal disease, HPV. Give them unbiased information. Then tell them that there is only one solution to side-step those risks: abstinence. It’s the difference between running through a minefield or following the path around it.

Then leave the choice up to them. If they want to be sexually active, the consequences are solely on them. Don’t encourage them by providing them free condoms.

I don’t feel it is too much to ask for someone to provide his own contraceptives if he wants to have sex. There is a Kroger near campus and plenty of other places that sell them. There are prescriptions. But to use the money of students who are morally against sex before marriage is unfair. Even if I weren’t against it, I still don’t see the need for why I should pay for someone else to have a condom during sex.

I would stay out of your bedroom if you would let me out.