Wednesday, January 8, 2014

Sincerely, One of Many Guys Who Cares

Dear Christian Sisters,

Let me just start out, ladies.

I don’t understand you.

Every time I think I’m getting somewhere in grasping the way the mind of a female works, I find myself confounded again by something a girl does.

I don’t think men will ever quite comprehend where women are coming from; but I know God made us different from each other (hopefully to compliment and not conflict). But there are a few things we can sympathize with you on.

Yesterday I read a blog post by a Christian girl who sympathized with the struggle of Christian men to keep pure in a hyper-sexualized society. Certainly the Bible tells us to, and the work of sanctification helps us, but despite that, “the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak” (Mat. 26:41). Living in this culture, I can obviously see the struggles of a man, but I can also see the issues facing women.

Ladies, I am sorry that much of society has degraded you into no more than an object of sexuality.

I am sorry that you are simply used to fulfill lusts and fantasies.

I am sorry that you have been reduced to no more than a collection of body parts and are leered at by strangers.

Society has told you that you are supposed to have your first “experience” well before you leave high school or else you will not fit in properly, and the more “experienced” you are the more popular you will be.

You are told that you have to have a certain figure, be a certain weight. And what standard are you held to? Usually scantily clad models and celebrities. Some role models you have.

I am sorry that the quick way to earn money, or the best way to earn money, so often is for a women to strip down and have pictures taken, or have sex videos marketed and sold in a multi-billion dollar industry, or at least sell herself on the street.

I’m sorry that when you walk into a room you have to hear obscene comments about your body and about what someone “wants to do to you.” I’m sorry that you have to watch your back to avoid getting touched inappropriately.

I apologize that your future husband is being pushed to show his “manhood” by having sex with as many girls as he can, and having his purity tarnished with all the temptations in society that destroy the reputations of young women as a whole.

But allow me to tell you this. We live in a sinful world, and it will not get any better. There may be many young women who have chosen a path of destruction. But keep your purity. Don’t waiver from God. It doesn’t matter if the world pressures you, tempts you, leers at you, or even makes you out to be something you’re not. Don’t forsake the truth of God to go after the error of the world.

And don’t settle on a guy who doesn’t hold the same convictions. It is a struggle for men, but if he shows no interest in keeping pure, he is not worth a second look, much less the devotion of a relationship. Don’t compromise, and don’t give in.

Be careful out there. Yes, you should obviously watch your back, don’t travel alone, etc. But watch out for deceivers. Be sure that whatever man you let into your life is a Christian, and one who is grounded in the Word of God and believes it. If he doesn’t believe it, again, don’t get into a relationship with him. If he professes Christ but believes things against the Bible, then he is there for other reasons (likely you). This makes him of the “evil men and seducers” that Paul told Timothy about (II Tim. 3:13).

"For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts” -II Tim. 3:6

Be careful.

And know that I sympathize with you. I see the garbage that the world throws at us (remember, it’s targeted at me). I’ve heard the stuff said about you. I know the expectations the world has of you; I can’t say I haven’t been blameless in the past. But know that with our eyes on Christ we “can do all things” (Phil. 4:13). I love you in Christ and am praying for you, and covet your prayers for me.


One of Many Guys Who Care